Making New Friends

I am shy.

No, really. I am.

I find it very hard to go up to people I don’t know and start a conversation. When I was in business for myself I had to go to these marketing/networking functions to try to drum up business and I would often find myself quietly walking around hoping and wishing someone would come up to me and start a conversation. I’d often leave without having talked to a single person. If someone would start a conversation with me, then I was totally fine. Ice broken. Friends forever.

Whenever possible I take someone with me to a functions where I don’t know anyone. Just recently I took my 13 and 15 year olds with me to a non-profit event. I knew the organizers, but I knew they would be busy so I wouldn’t be able to do my typical stick-like-glue-to-your-side-so-I don’t-have-to-be-alone thing.

They are shy too, so the three of us sat in a corner and talked all evening 😀

I recently realized that this shyness comes off as a bit of snobbery. Especially if one minute I am chatting like crazy with someone I know and the next minute I am hiding in a corner trying to look suave. I suppose the people I don’t chat with think I’m avoiding them?

The moral of this story: If you see me at a party or some sort of event and I don’t know you, come on over and chat. We’ll be BFFs, I promise.

5 replies to “Making New Friends

  1. I recently realized that this shyness comes off as a bit of snobbery.

    I can relate. I’m relatively shy by nature, but I tend to mask nervousness with sarcasm and bad jokes… sometimes that doesn’t work out.

    We’ll be BFFs, I promise.

    I can totes def vouch for this. If you ever need a socially awkward buddy, just give me a shout.

  2. I think I’m far less shy on the blogs–which isn’t always a good thing! Just wanted to stop by and say “hi”–as I told Jen Hooks, I feel like part of the WordPress family now. You’re all such wonderful, creative people!

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